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6527212 February 24, 2015

Deconstruction of a Southern Girl

I was taught through the church, and the Southern culture supporting it, that men are inherently superior to women. As if that wasn't enough, there was an underlying message that everyone was superior to me.

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6527212 October 04, 2009

Multiple Sclerosis Mess: An Aberration Story

My illness was an opportunity to remake myself into something better ...

Despite the premise of this blog, I still wonder why the hell we have to go through such %#@*#% crap. The human condition, the human body, the mind--they all push and push until sometimes we just can't help but wallow. (I've certainly wallowed plenty.)

We also get angry. And in those moments, positive thinking infuriates us. All we want is to be heard, to be recognized for whatever the hell pain and discomfort we're facing. "Look at me!" we want to scream at the faces around us. Sometimes we do scream. And people look, but sometimes they don't. Sometimes people can't hear or see us because they're too busy developing their own scream. So what are we supposed to do?

Change!

Who cares what the change is, just pushing on is sometimes the answer. Life develops. It may be the ones who can't or won't change, the ones who get perpetually stuck, who are the biggest sad sacks of all. They may seem happy, but standing on the same spot day in, day out sounds like torture to me whether it's emotional, intellectual, or physical. Move! Find God, find yourself, stretch yourself, let your mind walk, skip, jump, run! Do something about it. I won't lie and tell you that it's easy but I do know it's possible.

This week, I've been reminded of this concept and I intend to keep moving. I will not fear change, or become stuck in what I may have thought was enough of a change the other day. We all must find our own path, but perhaps we must also find our own mode of transportation. I think I'm close to finding mine. For Chris, it was multiple sclerosis (MS) and Jesus Christ.

After being diagnosed with MS, a poor attitude cost Chris his marriage. He now hopes that others might learn from his mistakes, and avoid allowing a disability and feelings of decreasing self-worth to destroy their most precious relationships.

Why is it that some with MS do well with the disease while others do poorly?

That is something that I certainly cannot tell you. Physicians and scientists have struggled for decades to find that answer, and are just now beginning to see progress, and recognize and understand those things for which they are searching.

What I can tell you is this. There is medical proof that demonstrates how worry, stress and anxiety are damaging to the human body at the cellular level. I've learned from my own experience with chronic illness, and the roles played by worry, stress and anxiety, that worrying and stressing about the future only ensures that the future (at least the future for which you had hoped) never comes. Worrying about finances, college tuition, adequate life insurance and more--all necessary for a bright future for my family--resulted in so much turmoil and strife in my relationship that my marriage was destroyed. Life is too short. Live for today. Like the Bible says, Don't worry about tomorrow. Today has enough worries of its own.

After your marriage ended, you decided to write a book. Why?

We all have defining choices that shape our journey and ultimately, our destiny. The synergistic effect of two specific issues inspired me to begin writing my book, Life Interrupted, It's Not All About Me. The two driving issues that pressed me to begin actually putting pen to paper were initially selfishness, and the God-given physical and mental ability to do just that.

Let me explain. You see, when I started writing the book, it was my intention to help myself by clearing my name, so to speak. My divorce was bitter and my ex-wife’s lawyer embellished so much that I wanted friends and family to know the truth. That’s when God intervened and showed me that rather than writing a book for one person, myself, I could write it for millions around the world who may be undergoing a similar situation. A situation of overwhelming gloom--an inability to see the future--which is probably best explained in my article, The Gang's All Here. MSfocus Magazine published the article in 2008 (see excerpt below). The entire article can be viewed on my site.

My marriage of ten years began dissolving when the “Monster” invited his friends to live in my house. If you have MS, I’m sure you’ve met the gang. There was the kingpin, Stress, his best friend Anger and his twin, Misdirected. Of course, Feelings of Worthlessness was there and his brother Feelings of Inadequacy who brought his best friend Low Self-esteem and his sidekick Depression, who hung out with everybody’s buddies, Worry and Anxiety. As usual, Communication was a no show, but sure enough his sister Miss-communication popped in and overstayed her welcome. They never left, but my wife did.


What factors influenced the major shift in your attitude?

I recently held a discussion and book signing at the Hopkinton Public Library in Hopkinton MA. During the question-and-answer segment of our discussion, one of the participants, the only person present with MS, asked a question beginning with the statement, “I’m amazed and excited to know that after all you've been through you're now remarried. How did that happen, because as you said, you're worse physically today than during your first marriage? And, what changed, I mean what was the turning point that allowed you to move forward find happiness and get remarried?” Of course, I knew exactly what she meant, because at one time I had the very same concern. At the point that my wife, my caregiver, first wanted to divorce, I had an inner dialogue that went something like this: Okay Chris, you have what is now becoming severe MS, who’s going to want to marry someone with MS? No one is going to want to marry damaged goods.

I'm sure that I was not the first one .to ever have this inner dialogue. It’s a real fear. I met my then wife to be, Jane, through an online dating service and she was totally aware of my disability. After Jane, my wheelchair and I went on our first date, I remember asking her, "Why would anyone get involved with damaged goods? Why would anyone purchase a vase with a crack in the bottom?" Jane’s response was, “Maybe I need one to hold my dried flowers.” All she wanted was kindness and love--no anger--just kindness and love.

It helps that we both have the same goofy sense of humor. We laugh together and at one another all the time. Sure, I have slip ups, and get frustrated and angry. The difference is that I have written, re-written, read and re-read my book so many times that when I do begin to slip-up, it’s so obvious that I can’t help but catch myself. And let’s not forget, Jane has also read the book, so when I slip up she’s quick to point out, “Chris, I think you need to revisit page 52," and we have a good chuckle.

Remember life is too short. You choose whether to smile or argue. We were married a year after we first met, and life is fantastic. Jane is the most wonderful, loving and caring person that I have ever known. If I had listened to my inner dialogue, I would never have met my incredibly awesome and loving wife. So these dried flowers are happily married and loving every minute of it. Never give up.

Obviously, life would be easier for you without MS; however, do you feel that you've grown as a person and attained a greater understanding of life and others through living with MS? Can you explain?

Multiple Sclerosis changed my life for the better. The Bible says, "Before I was afflicted, I did not know Him." Back in June of 1993, one Sunday morning after being away from the church for fourteen years, I found myself in a small Christian Church in the Northeast Kingdom of Vermont where I asked Jesus Christ into my heart. Had I not been suffering with my chronic illness I don't know where I would be today. I do know that by surrendering my life to the Lord, He has carried me and provided me with the abundance with which he has promised. "

My illness was an opportunity to remake myself into something better than I was before. What steps do you take to bring abundance into your every day life? What is your practice like? Firstly, the biggest defining moment was in June of 1993 when I gave my life to Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. Secondly, keeping abundance in my life involves reading the Bible, praying alone, as well as together with my wife on a daily basis, and doing my best to live a loving life the way God wants. The resulting abundance is truly amazing.

Fear often shows up when you embark on the path to abundance. What fear have you overcome?

The greatest fears I have overcome were:

A. That I would never be able to meet a woman and fall in love again,
B. I was going to be alone for the rest of my life,
C. That I would have to live in a nursing home, and
D. That I would never have a purpose to my life again.

What helped you overcome these fears?

I believe God intervened and directed me to help others by writing my book with the goal of helping those in similar situations better deal with the stress put on one's relationships as a result of life being interrupted by chronic illness or disability. I believe that when I decided to write a book that would help others in similar situations avoid making the same relationship destroying mistakes that I did, God blessed me with abundance.

Look:

A. I married the most beautiful and caring woman in April 2007,
B. My wife and I have the most incredible and loving relationship,
C. We purchased the house next door to my parents who live in the house where I was raised, and
D. I am unable to work because of my disability; however, I'm busy between six and ten hours a day reaching out and ministering to those who would benefit from reading my story.

What’s your passion? How do you live your passion everyday?

It is my passion to share my book with those who are struggling and can benefit from its contents. I wake up every day with a purpose. The purpose to reach out and help those whose relationships are suffering because of chronic illness or disability in their lives. I literally made my life an open book, exposing everything good and bad (because it's not always pretty but it's real). If just one marriage or relationship is saved or benefits because of that which I have experienced, it will have been well worth it.

What are the top three things we can do for someone who has been diagnosed with MS, or a similar chronic illness?

First, the most important thing you can do (actually not do for someone who has been diagnosed with MS) is this: Since many times, especially in the case of a newly diagnosed individual, MS is often an invisible chronic illness. We need you to believe what we say is the truth. Please don't question our integrity by doubting what we are feeling. I may look fine one minute, then seemingly out of nowhere, inform you that I can't walk up a couple of stairs or feel my hands. Please understand this is not something that we are making up to get out of doing something.

Secondly, as an individual living with MS, I know how much your assistance is appreciated. There are times that I/we become weak, clumsy even visually and/or cognitively impaired as a result of MS related fatigue, and we just can't function without your help. However, there are other times that we feel well and want to do things on our own. If you wouldn't mind, please ask if we need your help rather than just jumping in and taking over. It's a self-esteem kind of thing. *Smile*

And last but not least, life is too short. So, let's try to keep things light. A sense of humor is a great thing.

As a disabled person, what important message would you like to share with others who are disabled? What would you share with those who are not?

It may seem that you've been dealt a bad hand and rightly so, but one must not develop the Poor Me Attitude, which frequently accompanies chronic illness. Becoming depressed and making everything all about you will destroy your relationships with both friends and family members.

Do you have a life motto, and if so, can you share it with us?

Take one day at a time. Worrying about the future often ensures that the future for which one hopes never happens.

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6527212 September 03, 2009

From Pain to Prophetess: An Aberration Story

It was simply God.

I've been feeling a bit down lately. I'm not so sure I like how my mural is turning out, the publishing industry seems to be moving at a snail's pace, and my mother still isn't talking to me.Of course I've seen worse calamities, but there are just some days and/or weeks when that sinking feeling just won't go away. Sometimes it grabs me by the throat even when nothing seems to be sinking; everything appears to be fine.

So what is it? Psychology, guilt, the residual pain of childhood, missing my mom, boredom, selfishness, hormones? Who knows, but when it hits, the most important thing I do is to get busy coaching myself out of it. I think about all the things I have to be thankful for (there's a lot!). I look at the beauty around me (again, a lot!). I smile because Dad always told me that if you put a smile on your face, you'll eventually feel like smiling (it works!). I make a "to do" list. I write. I paint. I read.

And more recently -- I think about Aberration Nation and all the heroes who have shared their stories here.

See, I don't just write this blog for you, I write it for me. It's great therapy, especially when the sink sets in. For many years, probably through my early twenties, that stinky sink greeted me every morning, almost without fail. But as an adult, I've managed to keep it at bay, only allowing it to stay for a few weeks at a time. Sometimes I pretend it's not there until it fades away in much the same way it crept in. I've come to accept it as part of who I am and have tried to take from it what I can in terms of positives: compassion, empathy, experiencing a wider range of emotion, creative insight, my body telling me to either slow down or get busy, etc. I am who I am, and I've learned to channel and twist a tremendous amount of negative emotion toward positive ends--but it's not always easy.

So today the sink is my visitor, and together we will welcome Prophetess Lori McKenney to Aberration Nation. If anyone has a reason for a sinking feeling, it's her. Yet Lori marches on, ministering to others because she understands their pain and suffering. (Her beautiful smile alone lifts my spirit!) She knows exactly where the sink in life comes from, and her life mission is to help lift others out so they can know the type of metamorphosis she has experienced. Sadly, many of us need a total overhaul. Other simply need an every-once-in-a-while-mini transformation, because even after a metamorphosis, we're still only human.

In her book, Transformation, Lori explains the four stages a caterpillar must achieve before it transforms into a beautiful butterfly. In correlation, she imparts how the human heart and mind is connected in the complete metamorphosis process we can all experience.

You have said that your childhood wasn't normal. Can you tell us a little bit about what it was like in your Hampton, Virginia home?

Most children don't come home and see their family members shooting at each other. I grew up in Hampton, Virginia in a city that has gone through many changes. Hampton is a nice place but I was exposed to some bad things growing up there. When I think back on those difficult times, I realize that many generational curses hovered over my family. Due to lack of discernment, these curses eventually became strongholds. My family was in great need of Jesus Christ.

Throughout the years, I noticed that my parents had different goals. My mother was raised very different from my father. My father was a concrete finisher. I watched him day after day work hard to provide for the family. When he came home from work, he cooked dinner for me and my two brothers. I don't remember too much family time such as playing games, running through the house, having pillow fights, or outside events with my parents.

The memories of my mother are very little because she only lived a short time; I will explain later. Her background consisted of partying, getting drunk, and a lot of sexual immorality. I remember her always being at my grandmother’s house where there was a lot of prostitution and bootleg activity. There were also many people around--many of whom I would see one day and then the next some evil metamorphosis caused their lives to be shortened, even to the point of death. There was often a lot fighting in my family. Sometimes they would literally shoot at each other.

For all these reasons, my childhood wasn't normal. There were times I had to put a dresser in front of the door to get some rest because of the strange men who were always in and out of my grandmother’s house. I was never raped--thank you, Jesus.

God knew he was about to change the pattern of my life. A complete metamorphosis was going to take place.

How did your home environment shape your teenage and young adult years? Were you able to overcome what you'd been through at that point?

No, it caused me to run away from home. I was very angry with my father because he eventually killed my mother. It led me to marry a man who abused me physically and mentally. I was eventually able to overcome this by forgiving my father.


You eventually found Jesus Christ, and experienced a complete metamorphosis. Can you explain what happened and how your life changed?

When I excepted Jesus Christ into my heart, I began to see God transform my life. God changed my heart and mindset. I begin to have a different view about what my life would be.

The concept of metamorphosis is central now to your ministry. How did you come to start your ministry? Was it something you had always wanted to do or did it evolve as well?

Transformation is central to my ministry now because the process I had to go through to get to this level was painful but it ultimately worked out for my good.

Many people learn from hardship and overcome the negative experiences in their lives in various ways. For you, was it primarily your religion that enabled you to overcome, or or where there any other contributing factors?

It was simply God.

Although you suffered as a child, you now have so much to give to others. Do you believe that the suffering you experienced was part of God's overall plan for your life? Many people wonder why God would have us suffer at all. What are your thoughts on this?

Yes, I believe God allowed this process to happen so that he could eventually get the glory. My years of rejection, negative thoughts, depression, suicidal thoughts, hate, and bitterness has enabled me to minister to all types of people.

My Christian upbringing taught me that God loves all people, and that we should first worry about ourselves before judging others. Why do so many Christians seem to spend a lot of time judging others? In your view, is that how they should be spending their time? Doesn't God just want us to be happy? How can we be happy if we're so wrapped up in telling everyone how to live their lives based on our religious doctrine? I believe love is the underlying message that so often gets lost in the shuffle.

God loves people. I don't believe He wants us to judge others. He wants us to be open and allow people to come to us to get Godly wise so He can give them a successful life.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version)

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6527212 April 19, 2009

NOTE TO ... Endtime Magazine

Let me start by saying, I believe in God. After years of Bible Belt submersion, my most shining moments of intense belief occurred sitting in molecular genetics class during my senior year of college. How could these mind-blowing, multi-layered intricacies of nature happen by accident? The absolutely astonishing secrets of the human body illuminated for me the idea that somehow there was purpose and planning. Contrasted with the simplistic message of Christianity I was taught as a child, it sometimes seems that God is placating us, boiling down his complexity into a simplistic message that the least intelligent Earthling can fathom.

If you knew the amount of good versus evil rhetoric that flew through my childhood household amidst an ever-crumbling marriage, frequent suicidal ideation, screaming, despair, and several highly creative people packed in a space too small to hold them, you'd understand why I don't so easily accept passionate pleas and emotional interpretations laced with words soaked through and through with alarming religious and political connotations.

My mother has been a devout fundamentalist Christian for as long as I can recall. She's been reading Endtime Magazine and listening to your program, Politics & Religion for almost a decade now. When she first began listening, your leader, Irvin Baxter, broadcast his show from Illinois. By the time my mother became a widow, Mr. Baxter had moved his operations right into her hometown, Dallas, Texas. She now attends Mr. Baxter's weekly bible study in person and even went with him and his other paid companions to Israel a couple of years ago--a dream come true trip she couldn't afford to take. Trouble is, Mr. Baxter constantly proclaims an end of the world message. As a result, 99% of every conversation I've had with my mother over the last five or so years has somehow come round to her favorite topic--the end of the world as we know it and the second coming of Christ.

Recently my mother asked me once again to read Endtime Magazine so that I would be prepared and have the understanding necessary to survive on God's side in the coming years. I've taken a quick look at the magazine in years past, but this time I decided to read it cover to cover and properly evaluate what has become my mother's primary focus. Now, while I don't currently have every Bible verse memorized, I was raised in a super duper highly fundamentalist environment smack at the center of the blazing Bible Belt. I have a fairly good understanding of Bible basics and Christian doctrine. So I set out to assess the Endtime Magazine out of genuine love and concern for my mother.

Here are my conclusions:

1) Not counting the plea to subscribe in the footer of each page (something not often seen in traditional magazines), nearly every other page of the 25-30 page magazine advertises a product developed by Endtime Ministries such as videos, CDs, Bible study materials, speaker appearances and tours, subscriptions, books, etc. And these products are not cheap!

2) The magazine includes sections called Letters & Feedback, and World Review. In Letters & Feedback, all responses are used as an avenue for continuing the message that we are in the end times. Except for Bible verse references, none of the responses are supported by sources. The responses are also used as a way to point out Endtime Ministry products that can further clarify the responses. In the World Review section, world news is shared under various categories such as 6th Trumpet, EU Watch, Mark of the Beast, Antichrist, and World Government. The news is presented in brief paragraphs that clearly appear to be out of context. No sources are provided.

3) Every article is chock full of words and phrases such as imminent destruction, bloodshed, World War III, rivers of blood, and suffering. Opinions and personal interpretations weave through the writings of Mr. Baxter like a tornado ripping through facts. Everything gets jumbled up into an overpowering whirlwind tugging at the emotional core of those unable to assess true journalistic integrity. Like innocent youngsters in love, they are swept away.

The thing is, my mother is a wonderful Christian woman who is alone in a big city with only her faithful dog and a few busy friends. I've tried to tell her that even if the world is soon ending according to God's plan, we cannot alter that plan. But she is never satisfied with my actions, words, or deeds. This is a woman who told me once that Gandhi, Mother Theresa, and the Pope are likely not passing through the pearly gates. How much more can I do to make it onto her list? Just the other day, in the midst of our never ending end-of-the-world conversation, she shared with me that her newest prayer is for my husband and I to lose everything we have so that we might find God (according to her and Mr. Baxter's definition, of course). I said, "Thanks for that Mom," and was sad for several days. The God I believe in would not wish a mother to say such a prayer for her child. But apparently, this prayer comes by way of the God supported by Endtime Magazine.

If you are sincere in your beliefs and would like to spread what you believe to be critical political and religious information across the globe, why not do it using real journalistic integrity rather then taking the swept away strategy? Why not do it without every other sentence being an advertisement for your products? My mother lives on a tight fixed income like many of our nations' senior citizens. Must she send her money to you instead of using it to provide for herself? She is in need, yet she wants to help you, Mr. Baxter. But I am the one who must listen to her tired and worried voice when she talks about bills that must be paid and the car she can't afford to fix. I bet you have a nice enough car. My mother just needs one that works so she can drive herself over to your Bible study.

Trust me, I've heard it all. Every single fundamentalist come back for just about every intelligent question or doubt posed by the human race. There is nothing you can say that hasn't been said to me. I've lived in your world. Now I live in my own, and believe it or not, there is still room for God. Sure, I'm slowly dealing with all my personal issues around organized religion and hypocrisy. Some of the most religious people by your fine standards have caused the most damage in my life, and I'm tired of their excuses. I'm tired of their promises that God can ease any pain I may be feeling and rescue me from a life of sin. I have rescued myself, time and time again, and I have done it with the strength, intelligence, tenacity, and downright wicked gumption that God himself zapped into my DNA through those miraculous molecular genetic processes he created.

If only my mother could fathom those intricacies, she might consider that there is likely no way on God's green-depleted Earth that anyone is going to figure out his plan, much less Mr. Baxter. That's where faith, peace, and thankfulness for what we have come in. Like an ant on a log, I'm doing the best I can, gladly carrying a load much too large for one heart to bear. I have faith that when my log is blown to bits, I'll be at peace knowing I did my absolute best. Apparently my best doesn't meet the standards of my mother and Endtime Magazine, but somehow I trust that God is smart enough to get it.

Amen.

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6527212 November 23, 2008

Born Again: An Aberration Story

"My commitment involves standing up for what I believe rather than following current cultural tides."

Religion is always a touchy subject. I've not quite figured out why it should be but centuries have proven that more of the same is on the horizon. There are quite a few dominant religions supported by similar themes. They're all supposed to provide a positive influence, but when faced with all the negatives surrounding the topic, one might wonder if it's really worked out the way it was originally intended. My guess is that man's touch has tainted the basic messages and meanings behind the mysteries we all seek to understand.

Having superglue beliefs in almost anything can cause issues for an individual. Whether we want to face it or not, society is fairly rigid when it comes to defining norms. There are acceptable norms for religion as well, and straying beyond the bounds of this already touchy subject can create quite an aberration. Jane, a retired professional interior designer, has been a born-again Christian for 46 years. She has and will again, if necessary, forsake family, friends, food, material possessions, and her own physical safety to defend her commitment to Jesus Christ. She has graciously agreed to discuss some of her strong religious beliefs and experiences. Choosing to live with her aberration day to day is just another example of her deep level of commitment. Whether you agree with her beliefs or not, hopefully we can all agree that Jane is one gutsy lady.

Describe why your level of commitment to Christianity is an aberration. In other words, how does your level of commitment differ from that of the average traditional Christian?

My level of commitment to Christianity is directly correlated to my commitment to Jesus Christ. I just believe Him! I know Him! I have seen Him. At the appropriate times, He has empowered me with His Spirit to do the things that the Apostles did. It is just that simple.

He is the way to truth and life because he DID come back from death to live again. I have found that most people don't really understand the magnitude of this. Most people, including most church goers, either aren’t interested or don’t care to focus on life after death. Most so-called Christians don’t honor Jesus in everything they do. I act everyday in my belief that Jesus is real. He’s foremost in my mind. I don’t go to church on Sunday and then forget about him the rest of the week.

My commitment involves standing up for what I believe rather than following current cultural tides. I act everyday in my belief that Jesus is alive, tangible and real. I don’t see this level of commitment in too many others. For example, few are thankful for the chance to be saved from utter darkness. Few are concerned with the F word these days. Few speak the truth about what God said regarding gay and lesbian relationships. Few call abortion murder. A woman who’s had an abortion must truly repent, and accept that Jesus died for that sin to free her. It’s not okay, and it’s not a woman’s choice. Life and death are God’s choices.

Can you give an example of empowerment to the level of the Apostles?

I’ve witnessed miracles first hand and have been part of them. I’ve known things about people that couldn’t be known, and my knowing this information has resulted in tremendous changes in their lives ... similar to when Jesus knew details in the life of the woman at the well. I’ve cast demons from people, and seen their lives change in miraculous ways. The things I've witnessed would change Bill Maher's mind, that's for sure.

Have you actually seen Jesus? Please explain.

Yes, several times. I know it’s hard for others to believe. When I saw Him, He talked with me. Once I saw Him walking on the side of the road. Somehow I walked with him for awhile. He was unassuming and kind. He told me I had “done good.” Once, I saw Him in church and realized that no one else could see Him. I observed Him for quite awhile, and at one point He winked at me.

Can you share how being a highly conservative Christian has impacted your life negatively? Christianity has a positive message so how has it created issues for you?

In speaking the truth, sometimes I spoil the ambiance around others. A lot of people don't really want to hear the truth. People usually react to me in one extreme or the other. Sometimes they believe and want to understand what I'm saying and my love for Him. Other times, they think I’m just a religious fanatic. My aberration is that not very many people want the real truth, and I do. They ask, “What makes you think you know the Truth?" And then they say, "I'm a good person," as if that makes everything all right. I think about so many people who refuse to see the truth about how much God really loves them, and I cry.

Why has it all been worth it?

I've had a hard time because I believe in Jesus. I've had so much fun with Him though; He has such a great sense of humor. He makes up for much of my loss. Yes, it’s all worth it for me because He's my friend, my God, and my king. Without Him, I would have no hope. I want to reign with Him for 1,000 years when the time comes to do so. My path is His. He leads and I follow.

Why do you believe your level of commitment is required?

My thinking on this matter is that Jesus was either insane when he was on Earth and then he died just like the rest of us do, or He is alive and well and is exactly who He said He is. He said, "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life ...” Anyone who makes such a statement is either not in his right mind, or as I pointed out above, is speaking the truth. This Jesus is not just another person. He is not a way, a truth, or a life. He is a king and his father has given him a kingdom. He made all of us and all that is around us. It would be a good thing to be on His side. Too much is at stake to decide otherwise. He will come back to rule on Earth. All other paths will not lead to God! Any other way will lead to exile from the one true God who made all things.

He said that we must be born again and I believe Him. People just don’t realize how powerful He is, what is coming, and how critical it is to be fully prepared.

If you could send one message about your beliefs to the world, what would it be?

We're already condemned to die because of our own sin and imperfection. It's only through Jesus' willingness to come and die in our place that we have a choice for eternal life. You choose your own demise by dismissing Him. Lastly, I feel strongly that Jesus will return in our generation.

To learn more about Jane's beliefs regarding Jesus' imminent return, visit Endtime Ministries.

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